What to do on Your Divorce Anniversary

Divorce is a very personal experience.  Each and every one of us experiences it differently. 

Some of us mourn the loss of the relationship.  Some of us celebrate it.  Some feel a great sense of liberation.  Others are full of grief.  Still others are don’t know what they are feeling.   

The good news is, whatever you’re feeling, it’s perfectly normal.  Just like there is no one way to experience grief, there is no one way to feel about your divorce.  

Wherever you are on the spectrum, you might be wondering what to do to commemorate your divorce anniversary.  Of course, you don’t have to do anything at all.  But if you want to do something, it will definitely help the healing process.  

 If you’re a little stuck about what to do, here’s list of things you can do to mark the occasion. 

Reflect on the Past Year:

It’s important to reflect on where you’ve been so you can figure out where you’re going.  If you keep a journal, take an evening to read and reflect over your journal entries for the past year.  Then, write out your thoughts on how far you’ve come, where you’re right now and where you’d like to be in the future. 

If you don’t keep a journal, look back over your pictures of the last year.  What have you seen?  What have you done?  Then do the thought exercise described above. 

Speak Kindly to Yourself:  

When reviewing your past year, you might find yourself engaging in negative self-talk.  That’s extremely destructive.  Filling your own mind with critical thoughts that make you feel dumb or worthless doesn’t help.  It only hurts you.  Would you speak to a child the way you speak to yourself?   Of course not.  Because you know the damage it would do to them. 

So instead of looking at the past year with a critical eye, be kind to yourself.  Speak to yourself with love and compassion.  Recognize that you had a tough year.  And yet, despite everything that happened, you’re still standing.  You’re still strong.

Treat Yourself:

This is the perfect time to start replacing bad memories with good ones!  Go ahead and do something nice for yourself.  A day at the spa, a day at the movies, a wine and design class with your friends… you get the picture.  Have some fun!

Have a Party: 

Divorce parties are trending right now and for good reason.  If you’re in the mood to celebrate, then you should do it.  Get some balloons, cake, music, friends and games and get busy!

Go Out with Friends:

Even if you’re not the party type, surrounding yourself with friends during this time is a healthy idea.  If you’d rather keep things low-key, take a couple of friends out for dinner.  It doesn’t have to be a big thing. 

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